
ENNEAGRAM
The
Ancient symbol. Modern psychology.
POINT TWO: THE GIVER
Generous, Compassionate, People-Pleasing, and Manipulative

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BASIC DESIRE
to be loved, needed, and wanted by others
PASSION / BLINDSPOT
Pride:
manifests as the formation of a love-worthy appearance on the outside to mask an internal sense of being unlovable
CENTER OF INTELLIGENCE
Heart / Feeling
wisdom held in the heart and through emotional awareness is used to create a self identity that will manifest a worthy exterior in order to conceal the deep shame and guilt around the feelings of unworthiness
expel energy outward to create opportunities to prove their value
Pain & suffering often transforms into
internalized & redirected shame & guilt
BASIC FEAR
to be unlovable, unneeded, and unwanted by others, to be unworthy of love
FIXATION / TRAP
Flattery:
seek out connections to feel valued and manipulate their true emotions in the hopes that people will value them for what they offer and not for who they truly are
WINGS
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negative — self-critical, seeking approval and becoming insecure, uncomfortable
positve — aware of own growth, encouraging, supportive, deeply connected to helping
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negative — overly competitive and obsessive, manipulative and dishonest, difficultiy taking care of own needs and wellbeing
positive — adaptable and communicative, connected to optimistic world-view and serving humanity, flexible and highly responsive
CORE MOTIVATION
to strive to be lovable, to express their feelings for others, to be needed and appreciated, to get others to respond to them, to vindicate their claims about themselves.
VIRTUE / GIFT
Humility:
acceptance of authentic self allows for a deeply unselfish and humble human who is free to give to others with abandon, generosity, and no strings attached
ARROWS / LINES
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negative — become self-absorbed and deeply judgmental, self centered and manipulative, sad
positive — deeply connected to compassion and emotional honesty, find their own voice
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negative — deeply angry, belligerent of others who do not value them, distorted emotions and manipulative behaviors
positive — anger used as wake up call to find their truth and strength, deeply connected to protecting humanity by leading with compassion